Body Language and Non-Verbal Communication
So, with most schools in England returning to school on 8th March 2021. How are you as parents, and your children feeling? We mostly rely on talking and speaking to find out how we feel. But often what is more powerful are the words and actions that are not spoken.
Take a look at this picture. What do you see?
At first; we may see happy children laughing at joking with each other, happy to be back together again. In reality, some children might be anxious about returning to school; particularly as they have spent most of the year working online from home.
In part a child’s feelings will be a reflection of how they felt about school before the pandemic happened; and to some extent, it will be a reflection of how life has been for them during lockdown, both at home (personally), and educationally.
For some families, it has been a time to come together and spend time reconnecting over the things that matter like going for walks or playing games or even just a shared movie night.
If a child before lockdown was being bullied at school. They will not be so eager to return to school if their family life is good.
However, for other families; they may have a hard time adjusting to the loss of a job or a loved one; school may well be a comfort to spend time with friends and just be able to talk so, their experience will be very different.
Some children might not want to speak about anything. This is OK too! They may want to join in without speaking.
The point is that children all experience the same situation in many different ways. There are no rights or wrongs. Also, children (and adults), have different coping strategies.
Body Language
Body language is a form of Non-Verbal Communication. Both people and animals use this form of communication. Part of this behaviour is done subconsciously. It is therefore different from communicating using sign language.
Communication using sign language is intentional, body language is not.
The forms of behaviour used in body language include body posture, gestures, facial expressions and eye movements.
Body language may provide clues as to the attitude or state of mind of a person. For example, it may indicate aggression, attentiveness, a relaxed state, pleasure, and amusement.
Body language is significant to communication and relationships. It is relevant to management and leadership in business and also in places where it can be observed by many people. It can also be relevant to some outside of the workplace. It is commonly helpful in dating, mating, in family settings, and parenting. Although body language is non-verbal or non-spoken, it can reveal much about your feelings and meaning to others and how others reveal their feelings toward you. Body language signals happen on both a conscious and unconscious level.
Positive Body Language
Positive body language is generally quite reliable as an indicator of a person’s feelings. It signals interest in the other person and in the conversation.
Relaxed posture – Comfortably seated, relaxed breathing, no visible stiffness or abrupt movements. These indicate no major barriers to communication.
Arms relaxed – Uncrossed arms and hands open (palms up or otherwise visible to the other person) are signs of openness.
Good eye contact – Looking into the other person’s eyes, particularly when they are speaking, indicates interest in that person. Proper eye contact involves looking away occasionally to avoid staring.
Nodding agreement – When nods are used to punctuate key things the other person has said, they signal agreement, interest and understanding. However, continual unconscious bobbing of the head usually indicates that the listener is tuning out.
Taking notes – Shows interest and involvement, particularly if notes are on what the other person is saying.
Smiling/adding humour – This is a very positive sign. It signals a warm personal relationship.
Leaning closer – Reducing the distance between two people, particularly when the other person is speaking. Indicates interest is up and barriers are down.
Gesturing warmly – Talking with hands, particularly with palms open, indicates involvement in the conversation and openness to the other person.
For all of these positive gestures, moderation is the rule. When they are exaggerated, they can become more negative than positive.
Negative Body Language
Negative body language is somewhat less reliable as an indicator of the person’s comfort with the current conversation than positive body language. Actions that are generally considered negative may just be a matter of comfort for this person, may indicate that the person is tired, or may result from other matters that are weighing on this person’s mind.
Body tense – Stiffness, wrinkled brow, jerky body motion, hands clasped in front or palms down on the table. These can indicate a concern with the topic or dealing with the other person
Arms folded in front – Creates a barrier; can express resistance to what is being said.
Hand on face – A hand over one’s mouth is a closed gesture. Leaning on one’s elbow with the chin in the hand can communicate boredom.
Fidgeting – Moving around a lot, playing with things and drumming fingers are usually a sign of boredom, nervousness or impatience.
Arms behind the head, leaning back – In a well-established relationship this can be a relaxed gesture. In a new relationship, it is often used to express a desire for control or power.
Yawning – Boredom, confusion. The other person is talking too much or in too much technical detail.
Impatience – Trying to interrupt what the other person is saying, opening one’s mouth frequently as if to speak.
Distraction – Eyes flicking about, blank stares, flipping through literature without really reading it, looking at others in the office, looking at the person’s body or clothing.
Leaning away – Avoiding moving closer, even when something is handed to the person, is strongly negative.
Negative facial expressions – These include shaking head, eyes narrowed, scowling, frowning
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